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Never Lose Your Beauty

Posted in Health Issues by margarette.

Never Lose Your Beauty

Some people age too quickly and they accelerate the aging process by being fearful of the slightest sign of aging.

They relinquish the power they have to improve their health and their beauty as time passes.

Some women begin to panic as soon as they hit thirty.

I was talking at length with a young lawyer one Friday evening at a party put on by the chamber of commerce. She looked terrific in her long purple robe with multiple stands of black hair hugging her shoulders.

It was a wonderful evening and I had the opportunity to converse with this woman who was probably the most attractive females at the party.

…but all the time she was in the throws of anxiety…

She was about to hit thirty and had no serious marital prospects and so she worried.

She regarded herself as old.

This disregard of her own youth and vitality added a few wrinkles to her forehead which would eventually take root and make her look older.

The interesting thing is that she refused to do anything meaningful and positive to enhance her youth. She just worried that it might disappear all too soon.

So I spent my time that wonderful evening consoling a very pretty women whose fear of aging was turning her into an old powerless grump.

I told her she could do a lot about controlling the markers of age. I pointed out that she could begin to work on the 4 pillars of health and vitality

…Prudent Nutrition, a program of physical exercise, emotional competence and the decision to become the happiest person in her circle.

Some people think of themselves as old at 50 and some even at 40.

So they drift on into the inevitable pit of darkness worrying as they go and they lose the happiness that comes with greeting each day with optimism and gratitude.

And worry ages you like nothing else…

I am here to remind you that no matter how many birthdays you have had, you still have the option to see yourself as young, vibrant, and full of joy and to be young, vibrant and full of joy.

Adopt positive thoughts and words about your life at any stage. Act as if you have a great purpose and decide with each passing breath that you are going to have a ball in this life no matter what.

And remember that life and the freedom to move and to think are as one. Remember that you are the creator of your thoughts and you can choose your thoughts and your attitude every step of the way.

The more you move, the more you think, the more you plan, the younger you become.

You are as old as you decide to be…

So pick a number and let your actions and your thoughts fall in line.

Think of yourself as young, powerful, and energetic – even through the cracking of the knees and the stiffness of the back.

You are in control of your aging so don’t give up the responsibility you have to preserve your function at an optimum level.

Stay lifted. Stay strong. Stay healthy. Stay happy.

Work harder on yourself than you do on your job. – body, mind, and spirit.

It is in you that the treasure lies.

It is easy to ignore spiritual renewal but embrace the thought and practice it even if you have to go to a church or a gathering of some sort to jolt you out of your reliance only on things that you can see and touch. Respect the invisible and the intangible. That is where you will find deep refreshing revival of your spirit that will make you look young.

Do all in your power to ignite your beauty because when you look terrific you tend to feel terrific.

As the poet Dylan Thomas says,

“ Do not go gentle into that dark night, rage, rage against the dying of the light.”

A Life Without Examination Is Not Worth Living

Posted in Happiness by margarette.

A Life Without Examination Is Not Worth Living

I have spent most of my career trying to help people decrease stress, reduce anxiety and increase their happiness in everyday life. This is what I do every day. This is my goal.

So today I thought I would actually test myself to see if in fact I have less stress, less anxiety, and more happiness than those whom I am trying to help.

I examined several anxiety rating scales and put together a test which I am going to take myself. I invite you to do this test with me in an effort to rate your own level of anxiety and see if you can increase the amount of happiness you get from your everyday life.

Here is the test.

On a scale of 1 to 10 where 1 is low and 10 is high, rate the degree to which you agree with each of these 20 statements as it applies to your life.

1. I feel positive about my life
2. I have a clear sense of direction. I know where I am headed.
3. I believe in myself and my mission to do something significant in the world
4. I have a great amount of self confidence
5. I feel afraid of nothing
6. I never panic and I don’t get upset easily
7. I feel strong, well rested, and I don’t tire easily
8. I feel calm and peaceful and can sit at ease without any anxiety
9. I never have palpitations or feel my heart beating abnormally
10. I never get dizzy spells
11. My arms and hands are usually dry warm and relaxed
12. I fall asleep easily and get at least 7 hours of good sleep a night
13. I do not get stomach aches or indigestion
14. I am never bothered by neck or back pain
15. I never feel anxious or afraid for any reason
16. I never suffer from numbness and tingling
17. I feel I am in control of my life
18. I feel I can handle whatever life throws at me
19. I don’t worry
20. I love the people I associate with

After doing the test , look at the questions on which your scored less than 6 and write down what you are going to do to improve.

I really wish you a happy life.

How to Triumph Over Stress

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Every body is talking about stress but few have practical scientific tools to deal effectively with it.

Here are a few ideas which I would like you to consider.

• Stress is the response – not the event or the situation or the block to your plans for success.

• Expect trouble in your life and when it comes in the form of difficulties, hardships, setbacks, disappointments, heartaches or rejection, know that deep inside, you have all that it takes to overcome.

• Stir up your believe, let it swell like a tide in your chest, use your hands and push your self confidence up higher and higher.

• Learn to look trouble right in the eye and say ” I can handle this”. Shout it out with conviction, “I can handle this”

• Right in the midst of the storm, ask yourself what do I want to happen in my life, what outcome do I really desire. What would serve me best. Know the outcome that you desire.

• Focus on what you want to happen and go to work to produce that outcome.

• Remember, no one is coming to the rescue, you have to do it yourself. Get help if you must but sharpen your own axe and depend on yourself to win.

• Winning is about your willingness and determination to pay the price to feel the way you want to feel and have the things you wantto have and be the person you want to be.

• When troubles strike marshall all your resources and move towards the fulfilment of your goals

• In the face of stress, beware. Don’t mope or grumble, don’t nurse animosities, don’t harbour hatred, don’t register wrongs, don’t blame, don’t plan revenge or wallow in pity, ask yourself:”What is the best use of my time and my energy right now.”

• Believe with unshakable certainty that you have the ability to excel no matter what the circumstances may be.

• That’s how you respond to the difficulties of your life and triumph over stress

Leukemia Should I Leave Him for This?

Posted in Health Issues by margarette.

WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE?

I am grateful for the opportunity to share a story with you that lingers in my mind.

As you may know, I am medical doctor.

Henry was about the most thoughtful, considerate 28-year old patient that I have ever known. He was very handsome and very well spoken with a voice and an English accent that compelled attention.

Even when he was in pain he was cheerful and more concerned about taking up my time than he was about his symptoms.

Not surprisingly he had a beautiful girlfriend, well educated and from a wealthy family – she promised to be a real asset to him, as he seemed to her. They appeared to be very much in love.

The problem is that he developed leukemia and had been struggling with it for over 2 years. He was doing well and appeared very happy despite the diagnosis. He was able to work and was never in any great pain or danger and his love life flourished.

One day he came to the office quite ill. It was not terminal but it was a challenging bout of symptoms. I saw him and his girl friend together. I treated him and then they left. This intermittent flare-up was not totally unusual.

The next day the girl friend came to see me

alone.

She was really heart broken and in love but through her tears she asked me a question, which I will never forget.

She said: “ Doc, as you know, I love my boyfriend but he is sick. Doc, he has leukemia and is likely to die in a few years. I on the other hand, have my whole life before me and these next few years are crucial for me if I am going to have a family. What would you do doc?

Would you allow the illness to spoil 2 lives or is one victim enough?

She wept bitterly, and then without any input from me, announced that she was going to say goodbye to her lover.

One week after that visit she left North America and moved to Zurich. I never saw her again but I continued to see him for leukemia and then Depression until the end.

What would you have done?

Happiness Is a Choice

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Don’t forget to ignite your happiness today.

This is a special day that has been created for you to enjoy.

And isn’t it wonderful that you get to have a body with hands that can hold things, ears that can hear and eyes that can see. You have so much to be happy about.

Catch a glimpse of the grandeur that is in you and around you and celebrate life today, no matter what seems to be going wrong.

Don’t focus on what’s wrong. Don’t think about the irritations and disappointment that plague your life.

Rejoice and be exceedingly glad in the great opportunity you have to live today.

Do whatever you have to do to experience that incredible sense of joy and peace that passes all understanding.

I was sitting at my desk overlooking a beautiful beach with snowcapped mountains in the background. I felt terrific to be alive.

My stomach reminded me that I need some breakfast and I had an overwhelming urge to get up, jump in my car and battle the traffic for 15 blocks to pick up some delicious special fresh hot organic bread to go with the wonderful sautéed salmon and vegetable that I had prepared.

But I was captivated by my work as I prepared to do a seminar on stress and could not tear myself away and make the sacrifice to appease the great desire I felt for my favorite treat.

Eventually the urge to go for the bakery faded and I decided to just eat whatever was there.

Bad decision.

I was too lazy to pay the price to turn up my level of happiness.

I always wonder what the day would have been like if I listened more keenly and made it my duty to follow my inner promptings and made my special breakfast.

Sometimes we know what we need to do, or what we need to give up to stimulate happiness but we are too lazy to leave the beautiful view or venture out of the accustomed place and go after what we really want.

Are you willing to do what it takes to generate happiness in your body and mind today?

Happiness is not just happiness. Happiness changes the chemistry of the body. It decreases inflammation, lowers cortisol and adrenaline and strengthens the immune system.

Giving your self a special pleasure is important.

Pleasure is not happiness but it can point you in the right direction to the place where all those physiological benefits await you.

I wish you a marvelous, wonderful and happy day. Make it happen.

Happiness is a choice.

 

 

 

 

4 Ways Heartaches Actually Help You

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I like Heartaches.

Do you know that indescribable feeling of general weakness?

That constriction in your chest when you discover that the person you love is actually involved with someone else?

Have you ever experienced that aching void deep inside, when you pass by the window of someone who has stopped caring for you?

What a pitiful, depressing, sad feeling!

This is heartache.

And yet, I like heartaches.

Heartaches are real.

They make you feel alive

And somehow they stir up in you, a kind of poetic ambition, which would otherwise lie dormant.

Heartaches give you an opportunity to seriously look at yourself and examine your raw, authentic pristine qualities.

They give you a chance to come apart and get to know who you really are and catch a glimpse of the grandeur and power that is within you.

If you treat this experience wisely, if you treat it with respect, it will serve as a tremendous springboard to great personal advancement.

Perhaps you are lonely now because you have just come out of a stormy and unsuccessful marriage.

Perhaps you feel frightened because your lover has gone to another city in search of something you don’t understand.

Perhaps you are disappointed because your business partner has run off with all your money.5 Ways Heartaches Help You

Or maybe you have discovered that you have diabetes or some form of cancer.

Could it be that you are crying because the one you love has not been in touch with you for more than a week?

Well, whatever the cause of your heartache, I have some good news for you.

You need not cry anymore.

Use your depression as a time to look over your priorities, to define clearly your aims in life.

Bite your lip. Stamp your feet. Push your shoulders back and look to the future with the conviction that the best is yet to come.

Use this period to prepare your body and mind for better times, use it to analyze the characteristics and behavior pattern of you, yourself.

Use it to build your own resilience and emotional maturity and come out of this heartache a superior human being.

If you can cry and make your crying count,

If you can suffer and feel after better things,

If you can sulk and send your tentacles ever upwards,

If you can be depressed and still climb above your obstacles,

Then life belongs to you.

And you can join the ranks of those who can turn heartaches into heaven.

In gratitude, 

Dr. Ken Nedd

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Blood Pressure

Posted in Uncategorized by Ken Nedd.

You know when you are young and vibrant like you, you don’t think about Blood Pressure.

People who are older and sick think about BP all the time and one day you are going to be thinking about it too…

By then you might not be able to do much about your blood pressure. It will be set in its ways …

And it might have already destroyed the intima of your blood vessels and set the stage for you to develop palpitations and pave the way to the kidney dialysis room.

What’s my point?

Fix the roof while the sun is shining. Prevention is better than cure.

So – don’t curse me but my big news tip is that a study showed that when you are in a state of urgency and hyper vigilance – when you are on call –when you are waiting for your boss with anxiety – your blood pressure is rising high and if sustained may be damaging those beautiful your flexible arteries that make you look so attractive.

The rise in BP may also be thickening the walls of the heart predisposing you to the development of serious arrhythmias.

What is the most effective way for you to prevent the effects of hypertension on your body as you rocket your way to the top of your profession and try to balance work and home?

It might be too early or inappropriate for you to use a pill.

So do what is within the ambit of your own power and control ….

And you know what? The best medicines we have for BP or for any disease for that matter, are right there at your disposal – free..

They are sleep, exercise, love and self-regulation and nutrition

Researchers in one study found that young doctors on call have a significant rise in their BP and that sleep was the most powerful factor in reducing BP, independent of the time of day.

Physical exercise and prudent eating will also reduce your blood pressure but my favorite tool is the art of self- regulation – taking the time to notice your body – notice how you are – simply notice and breathe with awareness.

Today take the time to turn up your awareness of your body and breathe deeply and fully in through your nose, hold it for 3 seconds, and breathe out slowly and extend the out breath.

Nurture the machine that makes it all possible and aim to keep your BP at all times below 125/75

I hope this helps.

 

St Patrick’s Day – A good day to change your life

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Here are 11 characteristics of St. Patrick from a message by Carson Pue that will inspire you to take your life up to a new level:

  1. When St. Patrick went to Ireland, a lot was wrong. There was evil all around but instead of condemnation and judgment, he used understanding and friendship.

Do you condemn people or do you try to understand them?

  1. Patrick was friendly, open and inviting. He invited people into his life with the knowledge that friendship and openness to love enrich all concerned.

Do you isolate yourself because you are fine and don’t need the help of others or do you invite others into your life to try to help them?

  1. Patrick sought to improve the conditions of the less fortunate instead of ignoring them. He tried to adorn everything he touched.

Do you regularly look around for people whose condition you can improve?

  1. Patrick was known to have places of retreat. He never took his development as a spiritual human being for granted. He would go off in silent retreat to enrich his own soul.

Do you take time for yourself or are you too busy to see that the treasure lies in you?

  1. When St. Patrick wanted something and did not get it, he did not sulk, he did not give up. He was patient. He did not think that he was this great and successful man that deserved to get what he wanted when he asked for it. He knew how to wait.

When you are called upon to wait for something that you want, do you exhibit impatience, irritation and peevish behavior or can you wait patiently and cheerfully for what you want?

  1. Patrick as a young man was humble with his successes and his wealth. He was not demanding. He was a great man and humility is a cardinal characteristic of greatness.

Are you a great person? Are you humble?

  1. AT the Peak of his success, when St. Patrick got the news that he had permission to build his cathedral at his chosen spot, instead boasting and drawing attention to himself, he retreated and celebrated his victory by doing a 40-day fast with gratitude for his success.

How to you handle success? What do you do when life hands you some good fortune?

  1. Patrick had the incredible ability to look beyond the present. He was able to imagine the future and live with that in mind.

One of the characteristics of successful people is the ability to see the future positive potential of their actions and not just do what satisfies them for the present.

Do you consider the future in your daily actions?

  1. St Patrick was meek instead of aggressive. He was gentle and he lived with the ultimate interest of others in mind.

How do you deal with people? Are you gentle with people? Do you realize that we are all fragile beings traveling on a rough road?

  1. St Patrick was generous with what he had. He came to Ireland with great wealth but he gave it away to help others. He did not feel that he was entitled to it all because he was the one who acquired it.

How generous are you with your money, your possessions or your time? Are you a giver?

  1. St Patrick was very forgiving.

Do you hold grudges or do you let go of wrongs that were committed against you?

I hope you will be inspired to reflect on your own life and use these 11 points to help to increase your personal power.

 

 

 

Integrity – a defence against stress

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There is no pillow as soft as a clear conscience. The integrity issue trips up most of us in some measure from time to time. It is crucial to keep your integrity intact although it is very hard to do so.

Every Tuesday morning John gets out his list of values and reviews them. These are the principles that govern his life and he makes every effort to stick to them. So he becomes thoroughly familiar with them and enact them in his life.

Integrity for John is knowing what you should do ( no confusion) and having the courage to do it even though others may ridicule you for it.

Emanauel Kant says that we should behave in such a way that our actions could become a universal law. Whenever I am tempted to let my integrity slip a bit, I usually imagine that everything I do will be not only on TV but also on the Internet. This usually motivates me to be noblest self.

Lack of integrity is a big cause of stress and I would advise you to work hard to eliminate this source of unhappiness in your life

First, take time regularly to have an integrity check up. List your principles. Look at your values. Listen to your inner voice and see how accurately your behaviour is alligned to the values that you hold dear. A house divided against itself cannot stand.

With integrity on board when things go wrong there is a sense profound inner peace that stressful events cannot shake.

Feelings and Emotions

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Are you plagued by feelings of discomfort, anxiety or sadness?

Are you wondering what you can do to get back to being happy again?

Lets say you have not been diagnosed with any disease.

But you just don’t have enough joy in your life.

At best you are just able to get by from one day to the next.

Examine the room in you keep your feelings…

Is mostly occupied with anxiety, a sense of impatience or resentment, anger, guilt and hostility and tension?

Do you feel that you are just not energetic and free like other people and this is beginning to bug you?

Maybe you know in your heart that a better life with positive, uplifting feelings is available but you don’t quite know how to access it.

How do you get out of this state of inner turmoil that sucks your energy day after day?

Well, I want you to start celebrating right now because I am going to show you 6 simple things that you can start doing this very minute to ditch those unwanted feelings and begin enjoying your life with fullness of joy.

Today, make a special visit to that special room where your negative emotions and feeling live. Identify the uncomfortable impulses that make their home in you

and root them out of there.

  1. Recognize the truth that these negative emotions and feelings that dog your life are merely impulses of energy with a corresponding chemistry and if you change the chemistry, you change the energy and these feelings will loose their ability to cling to you.
  1. You can change the feelings by changing your thoughts. Begin right now to think about a happy situation or event and acting like you want to feel. If you want to feel happy. Begin to act happy. If you want to feel confident, begin to act with confidence even in the presence of fear.
  1. The words that you speak are powerful. They determine how you feel to a great extent. Therefore speak words of happiness and joy about your life. Let no negative communication come out of your mouth. Program happiness by saying I am happy and full of joy, even if you feel miserable. Say it with conviction. This is how you train the brain.
  1. Recognize that the kind of negative feelings you have are usually triggered by the kind of events and situations that accost you. If it’s an insult, here comes resentment or hostility and you welcome them unwittingly into your room and you feed them with milk and cookies and they hang around for more.
  1. Stop feeding negative emotions. As soon as they appear, recognize them for what they are. Find out what precipitated their presence ( a lazy spouse, a demanding boss etc) and dismiss these unpleasant feelings forthwith, by focusing on the positive opposite. When your lover disappoints you and anger raises its ugly head, get a piece of paper and make a list of all the things you are grateful to your partner for. Forsake the negative emotions and they will die for want of attention as you focus on making your gratitude list and speaking happiness into your life.
  1. Remember that emotions are like programs on television. If you don’t like the program you are watching, if it does not make you feel good, use the remote control. It right in your hand. Go ahead and change the channel. Try a channel of love or joy or hope. Just like you don’t keep watching a program you hate, don’t keep catering to emotions that depress you. Focus on the kinds of emotions that you want to experience.

Don’t play victim to emotions any longer. You are in charge.

THE STRENGTH TO BACK DOWN

Posted in Success by Dr Kenford Nedd.

A member of our choir with whom I sing every Thursday evening, moved to another city a few days ago.

It was a huge promotion for him but it left me very sad.

Our choir will miss this brilliant musician with an outstanding voice…

but that is not why I am sad.

I am sad because I had a strange encounter with him on the last day he attended choir practice.

I arrived at the parking lot for choir practice just about 10 seconds before he did.

There was only one parking spot left, so I naturally was entitled to use it and he would have to go on the street.

I did not know he was leaving the city, but something inside of me said, offer him the space. Let him have it. This is an opportunity to make someone feel special.

But I was not big enough, humble enough nor gracious enough to forgo my own convenience.

So I quickly pulled into the space and glanced longingly at him as he drove off in the rain in search of other parking spaces on the street.

I always remember that evening with a tint of regret. I really wished I had the largeness of heart to have backed down and offered him the space even if I was entitled to it.

That was his last practice with us and as I said goodbye to him for the last time, deep inside I felt that I had let myself down.

I had an opportunity to practice love, grace, humility and generosity but I wasted it.

Please note that I refused to give him the parking spot for a good reason.

I was first. I was entitled to it.

I could have gone the extra mile for him but I had a good reason to deny him the space.

When you are prompted to be compassionate and generous, there is always a good reason to do the ordinary and expected thing but the mark of greatness is to believe so deeply in the practice of compassion, empathy and generosity that no matter how good the reason to be selfish, you follow the superior path.

Nietzsche said if you want to be more than merely one of the masses, you must cease to be easy on yourself.

You will have an opportunity to give when you have little or to give in when you are right and let the other person win, or to go the extra mile and let the other person look good.

In those moments you will be tempted to forgo that opportunity, cater to your own interest and just do the ordinary thing.

Let this little note remind you to always look out for the highest good of others.

As the philosopher Emerson advised, “Consent your self to be the organ of your highest and noblest thought”.

Fallin in love again

The Magic of Falling in Love Again

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There is nothing better for human beings while they live than to be happy.

And you cannot be happy without love.

Love is the most powerful force in the world.

All religious leaders agree that we should love one another.

Infants without love die.

It is said that everything we do in life is either to get love or to make up for the lack of love. So that bully who delights in putting down other people, the timid person in the corner who tries to avoid contact with others as well as the famous leader with all his power, they are all hungry for love.

But Love is not a possession. It is not so much something you have, love is something you do. Love is a verb.

A bell is no bell till you ring it. A song is no song till you sing it The love in your heart wasn’t put there to stay, love isn’t love till you give it away.

Do you want to be a great lover?

Here are 3 things you need to remove from your life if you want to have great  relationships.

A – Advice – We love to give advice because it makes us look good and we think we are doing something good. The truth is that your lover or anyone in a relationship with you is not looking for advice. They want to feel valued. So whenever you are tempted to give advice, try to resist the urge and do or say something to make the person feel valued instead.

B – Back away from conflicts. Conflicts in a relationship are natural and conflicts promote negative emotions.

If a conflict already exists try to resolve it. But what I want to impress upon you today is that you should learn to spot conflicts before they break out and back away from them.  “In all the trade of war, no feat is nobler than a brave retreat”.

C – Criticism. Make it a rule not to criticize your lover under any circumstances.

Criticisms lead to feelings of resentment, which block the flow of love. Even if you think you should criticize just this one time … don’t.

Whenever you are tempted to criticize, compliment your partner instead. That is an effective way to bring out the best in them.

95% of our joy in life comes from our relationships.

If you really want to be happy, you need to invest in upgrading your ability to build a superior relationship with your partner and with other people as well.

The amazing thing is that when you are happy and in love, you feel more energized. You are more creative, your personal effectiveness will soar, and you will do much better financially.

I just opened the door to my new program called, How to Create a Superior Love Relationship.

In this program you will learn how to:

·    Make your partner feel more excited

·    Bring more intimacy into your relationship

·    Feel happier about yourself and more confident

·    How to bring more joy into your relationship when things go wrong

·    Remove any barriers that may be threatening to decrease your happiness together.

·    Stimulate feelings of optimism and love in stressful times

I made sure that this program is so affordable that virtually every person can get  it.

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This is the best investment you can ever make. A new i-phone, or a better computer might improve your life a little but this investment will change your whole life.

It will show you how to make yourself and your partner happier and it will give you the tools to spread the happiness you feel to  people around you.

If your relationship is losing the spark it once had, this investment will transform the way you feel about each other and make you happier than you ever dreamed possible as long as you follow the program.

This unique opportunity to improve your life is available only for a limited time, so act now and get this program.

Wishing you a superior Love Relationship

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WOMEN, STRESS AND HEART DISEASE

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Cardiovascular disease is mainly a consequence of how we live.

This condition is the number one killer among women in the developed countries and stress plays a significant part in increasing your risk of succumbing to this deadly disease.

Most women have to organize their own work schedule and then organize the home and the pressure mounts.

In many cases 85% of the work done in dual pay check families is done by women.

During the fertile age women have a lower risk of heart events because the female hormone estrogen provides a natural measure of protection.

Nevertheless younger women are still at risk and in this busy time, it is wise to use some protective regimen to ward off the effects of stress.

Even pausing and taking deep inhales through your nose and long exhales through your mouth and relaxing all your muscles as your exhale, will help to decrease the stress.

After menopause when most women are still working hard and have great responsibilities at work and at home, the female hormones begin to dwindle and the protection against heart disease fades.

So the post menopausal women who have risk factors such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol, blood sugar abnormalities and stress are suddenly at greater risk of developing a heart attack, stroke or sudden cardiac death.

The stress from work and family will impact the health of the cardiovascular system in a significant way.

Several studies have revealed the effect of stress on heart disease.

Stress causes asymmetric impulses in the heart. Stress also causes an increase in circulating epinephrine which damages blood vessels and raises blood pressure and it causes inflammation in endothelium of blood vessels especially in the arteries that supply blood to the heart.

Stress also causes an increase in circulating cortisol which can increase obesity and diabetes.

The interesting thing is that all these conditions are silent and as they progress, women are often at a very important and busy stage of their career and are confronting multiple stressors.

Many studies have demonstrated that apart form the diminishing hormones in older women, stress itself produces hormones leading to an increasing risk of heart disease during or after menopause.

Exercise, relaxation training and mind fitness training have been found to be helpful and can be used as an antidote to the silent disease.

Every woman should be aware of their vulnerability to disease especially with the approach of menopause and the increase of stress.

Adopt some simple techniques to combat the effects of stress. You can find useful ideas and practical techniques here in my blog. Also you can download one of my best stress reduction trainings at www.poweroverstress.com 

Get a hold of stress and use every difficulty as a cue to protect your most precious possession – your health.

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Life Perspective

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One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of showing his son how poor people live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.

On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, “How was the trip?”
“It was great, Dad.”
“Did you see how poor people live?” the father asked.
“Oh yeah,” said the son.
“So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?” asked the father.

The son answered: “I saw that we have one dog and they had four.
We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end.
We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night.
Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon.
We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight.
We have servants who serve us, but they serve others.
We buy our food, but they grow theirs.
We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them.”
The boy’s father was speechless.
Then his son added, “Thanks, Dad, for showing me how poor we are.”

Too many times, we forget what we have and concentrate
on what we don’t have. What is one person’s worthless object is another’s prize possession. It is all based on one’s perspective.

Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for all the bounty
we have instead of worrying about wanting more. Take joy in and appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends!

Please pass this page on to friends and acquaintances
to help them refresh their perspective and appreciation.

Because Life is Short and Good
Friends are too Few.

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10 signs that a break-up is imminent

Posted in Relationships by Ken Nedd. | Leave a Comment

Sometimes we are so enamored of our lover that we are incapable of assessing whether they are really into us.

When you hear any of the following from your lover beware:

10. You are such a wonderful person
9.This is just as difficult for me as it is for you
8. I am saying this because I really care for you
7. You are too good for me
6. You deserve someone better
5.I just can’t fall in love with anyone right now
4. You’ll make someone a terrific spouse, you are such a good person
3. I’m just not myself these days
2. It’s not you. It’s me that is the problem
1. I’m not going to let you have to put up with me any longer

When you hear these kinds of words, he or she is just not into you anymore. Resist the temptation to make excuses for their behavior. They are just not into you. Time to protect yourself.

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Never Lose Your Beauty

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I would like to invite you to make a resolution to look younger, feel younger and have more energy one year from now. Aim to be substantially more beautiful in one year than you are right now.

I think people age too rapidly. They loose their beauty too quickly. As soon as they hit thirty, they bring out the aging ugly attitudes and draining emotions that make them look ancient and they begin to panic.

I was with a young lawyer one Friday evening…  It was a wonderful evening but all the time she was in the throws of anxiety… the woman was worried.

She was worried because she was about to hit thirty and had no marital prospects. She had met no suitable mate. She felt incapable of attracting a man of quality and now she is mildly depressed and lonely and she regarded  herself as old.

Some people think of themselves as old at 50 and some even at 40 or 30.  And so they drift on into the inevitable pit of darkness worrying as they go down the tube of time.

And guess what, worry sucks away your happiness and makes you intolerable as partner. And worry ages you like nothing else…

Allow me to remind you that no matter how many birthdays you have had, you still have the option to see yourself as young and sprightly.

Write down the age you want to look like. See yourself in your mind as if you are that age. Walk as if you are that age,  work as if you are that age and associate with the positive people of that age.

And life and the freedom to move and to think are as one. The more you move, the more your think, the more you plan, the younger you become.

You are as old as you decide to be…   Think of yourself as young and powerful and energetic. Dress well. Improve your qualities. Grow in all the good ways that you can. Embrace change. When you are young, you grow and you change. Make sure that you become more beautiful with each passing day. Think about it, dream it, will it and do what ever you can to materialize it in you reality.

 

it will help you stay lifted and strong!

 

As the poet TS Elliott says”

“ Do not go gentle into that dark night rage, rage against the dying of the light.”

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What Kind Of Year Do You Want To Have?

Posted in Stress Reduction Tips, Success by Ken Nedd.

We pay great attention to things that we can see, touch and count while we ignore the invisible and the intangible aspects of life when these are the most important factors in determining our success in life.

Don’t measure your year only by the material things that you would like to achieve in your professional or personal life.

Don’t only think of the money you would like to make, the position you would like to attain, the house you would like to build, the job you would like to land or how many clients you would like to see.

Write down your material goals. Develop a clear vision of the outcome you want in your chosen field of endeavor. The results that you can touch, see, count or measure is an invaluable part of your success.

But in addition to the outcome goals that you list, try to include and focus on performance goals. These are the goals that will determine how you will function from day to day or minute to minute. These goals will govern how you behave as your strive towards the mark that you set for yourself.

Think of how you would like to be or function in the process, the daily journey, minute by minute. See yourself in action in your minds eye and imagine that you are doing something noble or rewarding from day to day at every step.

Make an effort every day to enrich yourself by reading a quote or a paragraph of a book with the specific intention of inspiring your mind and upgrading your attitude and actions.

When all is said and done, your achievements depend on the caliber of your thinking, the content of your character. So take time with yourself and make it a goal to spend even 5 minute with yourself every day, because it is in you that the treasure lies.

Your inner development and the values and principles that govern your performance constitute the magnet that will draw the things, people and circumstances that are in harmony with the material goals that you want to achieve.

At all times endeavor to think, act and assume the inner attitude that will surface and propel your success. Make this inner work a goal.

Tell yourself that you are going to act with courage and discipline and that you are going to be persistent. Think of the qualities you need to have to be the best at what ever you do and program these qualities into your life. Write them down. Talk about them. Focus on them. Keep your find riveted on what those qualities you want to possess and they will be there when you are up against the wall.

And bring an air of happiness to everything you tackle. Happiness is relevant.

Think about the emotions you want to feel this year – energy, love, joy, pride, peace, gratitude, compassion or whatever is appropriate for you. Think about the excitement you want to create in your family or coworkers. Don’t underplay the role of emotions as you work to achieve your goals.

The whole point of this report is that you should make the desired emotional state a goal. Treat it as a goal and monitor its power in your life as you go along.

If you don’t do anything to enhance positive emotions, negative emotions will predominate and make your year miserable even if you manage to get some good financial results.

Remember happiness is the prize. You are here to celebrate the moments of life. Don’t let your striving for success extinguish your appreciation of the importance of happiness. In everything choose happiness.

When you are walking down the street, choose happiness, when you are arguing with your boyfriend, choose happiness, when your boss is unreasonable, choose happiness.

The opposite of happiness is not just an unpleasant feeling but also the beginning of a cascade of reactions that can lead to a host of diseases including heart disease and cancer. Choose to work and live and have your being as a happy person and remember happiness comes in moments.

So take a moment to say something nice to someone every day. Take a moment to look out the window and breathe a breath of gratitude. Take a moment to send an email to a struggling friend to express your love or to an old teacher to register your gratitude.

Let this year be a year in which you achieve not only material things but spiritual and emotional growth as well.

Comment below and answer this question: Do you plan to be more relaxed this year than you were last year?

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HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT

Posted in Happiness, Success by Ken Nedd.

Lets suppose you want to triple your income in the next 2 years or double the revenue of your department, or meet and marry a wonderful person, here is a formula that can help you make your dream come true.

Say the word VIVA and apply each letter in the word to your goal.

V – Visualize the outcome that you want.

Several times a day, take a moment to see yourself in your mind’s eye with your goal accomplished. Make the picture of your accomplishment vivid, big, colorful, close up and life like. See yourself functioning in your future position with great joy and a deep sense of meaning. See yourself cheering and clapping as the figure you visualize is announced or the ceremony is being conducted.

When you habitually visualize a goal, you are programing your brain to help you achieve it.

One new drug rep wanted to become number one in her state. She had hundreds of experienced competitors, so she put the words “ Number One” on the dashboard of her car and every time she saw it, she visualized herself at the annual meeting walking up to receive her prize and …. she did.

I — Intend that the goal will materialize.

To intend means to adjust the attitude of your mind and body to fall in line with what you really want.

Right now, for practice, intend to pick up a book with your right hand. Don’t pick it up but intend to pick it up. Immediately you will notice that tension increases in the muscles that you would use to pick up the book, your posture will automatically change to match your intention and make it a little easier to pick up the book. Your whole physiology would be geared toward picking up the book.

In the same way, when you set your intention to achieve your special goal, your physiology will change to make it easier for you to do it. When you intend it in your mind, your attitude and physiological state will change so as to attract the things, people and circumstances that are consistent with the goal you have intended.

V- Verbalize your goal.

Talk your intention to achieve your goal as often as you can. Tell only the right people. Beware of naysayers. Create a small group of your colleagues or friends and meet every Tuesday for lunch and use 11 minutes to talk about your goal. Read about the subject of your goal as well. Surround yourself with video and audio programs about it and have detailed conversations about your goal to the people you love. Be obsessed with it and it will more likely come to pass.

A – Assume the role that you would have in your future goal.

Pretend that you have accomplished the goal and start acting and living as you would if the goal was already achieved. Act like it. If, for example, your goal is to inspire your employees to bring in an extra one million dollars of revenue, begin to act like a great inspiring manager, dress like one, talk like one. Look people in their eyes and let them know they can conquer the world. Act as you would if your goal was already accomplished.

Acting like the person you want to be, will trigger new feelings in you and around you that will motivate you and your team to do what it takes to pursue the goal with gusto.

So to achieve your important goal, think of the word VIVA and put each letter into action.

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Handling Conflicts

Posted in Happiness, Relationships, Success by Ken Nedd.

The fact that each one of us is a unique human being with our own special talents, gifts and natural tendencies, is a guarantee that conflicts will arise. Conflicts do not have to impede our progress, if we choose the correct response, they can become great catalysts to our success.

Here are 15 practical ideas that you can use when dealing with a conflict in any relationship.

  • Back away from conflicts. If you know someone is coming to pick a fight or provoke dissonance, try as much as possible to avoid that situation. Learn to spot conflicts in utero, before they are born, and back away.
  • If a conflict already exists, don’t suppress the discomfort. Don’t pretend that all is well. Don’t put off dealing with the person or persons involved. Make an appointment and address the issue at an appropriate time, as soon as possible.
  • Use the meeting as an opportunity to turn your opponents into supporters. As Abraham Lincoln said, “ destroy your enemies by turning them into your friends”.
  • Conflict resolution is important work. Conflicts cause stress and stress shortens life. Therefore take the time to prepare diligently for the encounter. The chance to unload the stress of a conflict is a wonderful gift. It could save you from a heart attack. So prepare well. Don’t only prepare the facts and rehearse your arguments, but prepare yourself emotionally. Eschew all frustration, anger, bitterness, revenge or hostility and fill your thoughts and your mind with feelings of empathy, kindness, humility and patience. Aim to be your wisest and noblest self when dealing with a conflict.
  • Make some rules that will govern the way the meeting or conversation must proceed.
  • Write down the goal or goals that you want to achieve from the encounter. For example: “I want us to agree never to shout at each other again, unless the house is on fire; or I want us to agree to get out of debt” or whatever. Go to the meeting with clear outcome goals.
  • In addition to the outcome goal or goals, adopt another type of goal, a behavioral goal or performance goal to govern how you will behave during the meeting. Whereas the outcome goal does not depend entirely on you alone, the behavioral goal is entirely in your hands. Here are a few examples: “I’m going to sit up straight and maintain eye contact. I am going to listen opportunistically and never interrupt. I’m going to take notes”.
  • Leave your ego at the door. Do nothing and say nothing out of a desire to look superior. Self-aggrandizement is absolutely forbidden. Boost the other person’s ego if at all possible. This is not a contest. This is not about winning. You win a fight but you resolve a conflict.
  • Define the problem clearly. Stick to the facts and leave blame, criticism or revenge out of it – just the fact. Beware of negative emotions such as envy, hostility, jealousy and self doubt.
  • Describe clearly the particular behavior or habit you observe, and not your interpretation of it. For example, it is better to say “I noticed you arrived at 4:30 pm,” rather than “you are always late”. Resist the temptation to condemn.
  • Banish judgment. Don’t judge something as bad because it is unfamiliar to you or at variance with what you believe. Embrace curiosity. Adopt an inquiring attitude and try hard to understand. This draws the other person to you. Empathy is amazing.
  • Refuse to defend yourself. When you are accused of something, turn the spotlight on the problem you are here to solve and focus on that and not on you or the other party.
  • Give up being right in favor of being happy. Admitting errors clears the score and leaves you better than before.
  • Communicate with clarity, courtesy, consideration, constructiveness, conciseness and congruence.
  • Listen more than you talk. The less you talk the stronger you become. Silence is strength.
  • Lower your level of tension before and during the meeting. Breathe in deeply and slowly thru your nose; and as you breathe out, relax all your muscles. Try to breathe like this for the duration of the meeting or conversation.
  • Beware! Negative emotions abound. Hostility can easily be triggered. Put on an attitude of understanding and acceptance, and move far away from the arena of revenge or blame.
  • Stay on top of your emotions. Notice how you feel and stay lifted. Stay positive.

 

If you are slow to anger, you are better than the mighty, and if you can rule your spirit you are grater than any general who conquers a city.

 

QUOTE

“ In all the trade of war no feat is nobler than a brave retreat”

 

QUESTION

What is the most common cause of conflict between you and anyone?

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What Do You Need To Leave Behind?

Posted in Happiness, Happiness, Success by Ken Nedd.

What’s holding you back?

I think that we should always look for landmarks that we can use as motivation to move to a higher plane in our lives. A new day, a new week or a new month presents each of us with a great opportunity to initiate change.

Imagine every morning for example, that you are going to a new country to start a new life …. In that new country you will have everything you need but you must leave behind everything that will slow you down.

So ask yourself what would hinder my progress in the new country or in the new life that I want to create for myself?

What bad habits should I leave behind lest my journey be compromised? What relationships do I need to end? What jobs do I need to give up?

Actually take the time out to examine how you have lived, what stood in the way of your progress and leave those things behind every time you give yourself the opportunity to begin anew.

Any attitude, emotion or tendency that you think will impede your progress?

Leave it behind.

When, as a medical student I went to study neurosurgery in San Francisco, I examined myself and I had to leave behind many habits and beliefs about myself that would slow me down.

You are on the verge of big success. You are embarking today on a new journey to a new country in this new day called tomorrow. A new level of success awaits you.

Something great is going to happen in your life if you clear away the baggage. You are destined to do amazing things in your new life.

But please ask yourself, “What do I need to leave behind in order to feel unencumbered and make fast progress spiritually, emotionally, financially and socially?”

What must I give up in order to have more energy and vibrancy to attract more success in my work and in my relationships?

Take the opportunity that a new day, week or month offers you to become a better person and be sure to leave some unwanted cargo behind.

Success depends on what you decide to leave behind.